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When “Healthy” Habits Create Emotional Distance
In the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Jill and Alonso Pool join Wendy, Tim, and Dan, to talk about how even healthy activities and recovery routines can create emotional distance when communication, transparency, and consideration for the partner are missing.Show More
When “Healthy” Habits Create Emotional Distance
The important question is not simply whether an activity is “good” or “bad.” It is: What is this doing to our relationship, and what is it doing to my partner?
In the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Jill and Alonso Pool join Wendy, Tim, and Dan, to talk about how even healthy activities and recovery routines can create emotional distance when communication, transparency, and consideration for the partner are missing.
In the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Jill and Alonso Pool join Wendy, Tim, and Dan, to talk about how even healthy activities and recovery routines can create emotional distance when communication, transparency, and consideration for the partner are missing.
When “Healthy” Habits Create Emotional Distance
The important question is not simply whether an activity is “good” or “bad.” It is: What is this doing to our relationship, and what is it doing to my partner?
In the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Jill and Alonso Pool join Wendy, Tim, and Dan, to talk about how even healthy activities and recovery routines can create emotional distance when communication, transparency, and consideration for the partner are missing.
In the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Jill and Alonso Pool join Wendy, Tim, and Dan, to talk about how even healthy activities and recovery routines can create emotional distance when communication, transparency, and consideration for the partner are missing.
How Loneliness Affects Relationships
Wendy, Tim and Dan are joined by Jill and Alonso Pool for the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, where they explore how emotional neglect can leave a partner feeling alone, unseen, and unsure whether their pain is valid.
They also discuss why transparency, vulnerability, and regular check-ins are essential for rebuilding attachment, especially in recovery. Even without sexual betrayal, chronic emotional neglect can deeply impact a relationship. Naming feelings like loneliness, hearing them without defensiveness, and making space for honest conversations can help couples begin to reconnect.
Listen to the full episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool' now on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
They also discuss why transparency, vulnerability, and regular check-ins are essential for rebuilding attachment, especially in recovery. Even without sexual betrayal, chronic emotional neglect can deeply impact a relationship. Naming feelings like loneliness, hearing them without defensiveness, and making space for honest conversations can help couples begin to reconnect.
Listen to the full episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool' now on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
How Loneliness Affects Relationships
Wendy, Tim and Dan are joined by Jill and Alonso Pool for the latest episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, where they explore how emotional neglect can leave a partner feeling alone, unseen, and unsure whether their pain is valid.
Listen to the full episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool' now on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
Listen to the full episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool' now on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
Emotional Neglect in Addiction Recovery
Emotional betrayal is not only about emotions. It can show up in secrets, spending, and patterns of behavior that slowly pull someone away from their partner.
In this clip from 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool introduce the “D” in their DNA framework: emotional displacement. They explain how even healthy activities, including recovery routines, can begin to replace connection and priority within a relationship when there is a lack of communication and transparency.
In this clip from 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool introduce the “D” in their DNA framework: emotional displacement. They explain how even healthy activities, including recovery routines, can begin to replace connection and priority within a relationship when there is a lack of communication and transparency.
Emotional Neglect in Addiction Recovery
Emotional betrayal is not only about emotions. It can show up in secrets, spending, and patterns of behavior that slowly pull someone away from their partner.
In this clip from 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool introduce the “D” in their DNA framework: emotional displacement. They explain how even healthy activities, including recovery routines, can begin to replace connection and priority within a relationship when there is a lack of communication and transparency.
If a partner is left asking, “Where am I in this? Where is our relationship?” that pain deserves to be named, understood, and addressed.
In this clip from 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool introduce the “D” in their DNA framework: emotional displacement. They explain how even healthy activities, including recovery routines, can begin to replace connection and priority within a relationship when there is a lack of communication and transparency.
If a partner is left asking, “Where am I in this? Where is our relationship?” that pain deserves to be named, understood, and addressed.
Emotional Affairs When Secrets Replace Intimacy
In the latest Conversations Podcast episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool join Dan, Tim, and Wendy to define emotional betrayal and explain why it can be just as painful and just as deserving of acknowledgment as sexual betrayal.
If you have ever questioned whether your pain “counts,” this conversation validates an often-overlooked form of betrayal. Watch the full episode to hear more from Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc.
If you have ever questioned whether your pain “counts,” this conversation validates an often-overlooked form of betrayal. Watch the full episode to hear more from Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc.
Emotional Affairs When Secrets Replace Intimacy
In the latest Conversations Podcast episode, 'Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery', Jill and Alonso Pool join Dan, Tim, and Wendy to define emotional betrayal and explain why it can be just as painful and just as deserving of acknowledgment as sexual betrayal.
If you have ever questioned whether your pain “counts,” this conversation validates an often-overlooked form of betrayal. Watch the full episode to hear more from Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc.
If you have ever questioned whether your pain “counts,” this conversation validates an often-overlooked form of betrayal. Watch the full episode to hear more from Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc.
Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool
Betrayal isn’t always sexual. In this episode, Dan Drake, Tim Stein, and Wendy Conquest welcome Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc for a candid conversation about emotional betrayal.
Jill and Alonso break emotional betrayal into three layers: emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs (DNA).
Whether you are a betrayed partner, someone in recovery, or a professional supporting couples, this conversation offers language for a pain that is often dismissed or misunderstood.
Jill and Alonso break emotional betrayal into three layers: emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs (DNA).
Whether you are a betrayed partner, someone in recovery, or a professional supporting couples, this conversation offers language for a pain that is often dismissed or misunderstood.
Understanding Emotional Betrayal in Recovery with Jill and Alonso Pool
Betrayal isn’t always sexual. In this episode, Dan Drake, Tim Stein, and Wendy Conquest welcome Jill and Alonso Pool of Hope in the Havoc for a candid conversation about emotional betrayal.
The often-overlooked harm that can occur when emotional energy, intimacy, care, or attention is redirected away from a partner. Jill and Alonso break emotional betrayal into three layers: emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs (DNA).
Together, they discuss why someone can be sexually sober yet still cause relational harm, how “healthy” activities or recovery routines can unintentionally replace connection with a partner, and why transparency, regular check-ins, and emotional honesty are essential to rebuilding trust.
Whether you are a betrayed partner, someone in recovery, or a professional supporting couples, this conversation offers language for a pain that is often dismissed or misunderstood.
The often-overlooked harm that can occur when emotional energy, intimacy, care, or attention is redirected away from a partner. Jill and Alonso break emotional betrayal into three layers: emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs (DNA).
Together, they discuss why someone can be sexually sober yet still cause relational harm, how “healthy” activities or recovery routines can unintentionally replace connection with a partner, and why transparency, regular check-ins, and emotional honesty are essential to rebuilding trust.
Whether you are a betrayed partner, someone in recovery, or a professional supporting couples, this conversation offers language for a pain that is often dismissed or misunderstood.
When Doing Recovery Doesn't Feel Like Enough
Conversations Podcast hosts offer a simple but profound invitation: Ask yourself, "Am I checking boxes… or truly leaning in?" What would “not checking boxes” actually look like in your daily life?
And if you’re serious about change, find the people who challenge you, not just the ones who tell you you’re doing fine. Because real recovery demands courage, curiosity, and honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable.
And if you’re serious about change, find the people who challenge you, not just the ones who tell you you’re doing fine. Because real recovery demands courage, curiosity, and honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable.
When Doing Recovery Doesn't Feel Like Enough
Recovery isn’t about looking good. It’s about showing up authentically, doing the work between sessions, and sharing the parts you’re ashamed to talk about.
Conversations Podcast hosts offer a simple but profound invitation: Ask yourself, "Am I checking boxes… or truly leaning in?" What would “not checking boxes” actually look like in your daily life?
And if you’re serious about change, find the people who challenge you, not just the ones who tell you you’re doing fine. Because real recovery demands courage, curiosity, and honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Conversations Podcast hosts offer a simple but profound invitation: Ask yourself, "Am I checking boxes… or truly leaning in?" What would “not checking boxes” actually look like in your daily life?
And if you’re serious about change, find the people who challenge you, not just the ones who tell you you’re doing fine. Because real recovery demands courage, curiosity, and honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable.